the coolest people are actually weird and fucked up and strange and peculiar and they just dont care. the coolest people are actually lame as hell and they rock it. this is what ive learned
I’ve been seeing a disturbing number of “queer safe spaces” describe themselves as things like “femme & them” and even worse “she+,” conflating femininity & nonbinaryhood. cease this immediately. say it with me: nonbinary people are NOT women-lite and it is extremely violent and straight up incorrect to imply that all they/thems are fem adjacent. this is erasure and this verbiage does nothing but make gnc and nonbinary spaces unsafe for masc and male nonbinary people. nonbinary, genderqueer and other third gender people can be and are masculine and men, we can be hes as well as shes and theys, stop allowing yourself and your peers to view nonbinary as woman/femme-lite, signed a butch nonbinary person.
as a lot of folks in the tags have added, this implies the idea that women are wholesale safer for queer people to be around, which is not the case, as queer women are still capable of being transphobic, biphobic, lesbophobic and so on. the other side of this implication in this verbiage is men & mascs are inherently unsafe to be around, which is violent and untrue rhetoric.
queer men still need safe spaces. queer mascs still need safe spaces. cis gay men, trans men, intersex men, genderfluid men, nonbinary men, nonbinary mascs, bears, bi/pansexual men & mascs, male & masc drag performers, and other queer masculine people are still threatened and made unsafe by cisheterosexual society and need somewhere safe to be ourselves and to be queer.
men & mascs are not inherently unsafe to be around. women & femmes are not inherently safe to be around. women & femmes are capable of queerphobia and violence. queer men & mascs are capable of being abused, mistreated, hurt, abandoned and worse. queer men & mascs still need our help and support, and this goes quadruply for nonbinary men & mascs.
masculinity is not a threat. femininity is not “safer” than any other identity or presentation. make your safe spaces SAFE for ALL QUEERS, not just the ones you think are The Good Ones.
this quote from hbomberguy’s plagiarism video really resonated with me:
“creative people have trouble recognising their skills as skills, because eventually they feel like second nature. […] this stuff really is valuable. if it wasn’t, people wouldn’t be stealing it. creativity doesn’t feel special or unique until you realise people have to plagiarise it”
your craft is and always will be valuable, please never let anyone make you doubt that
This graphic is fabulous. It represents a tiny crash course in rhetoric. Learn these things. Put them on your wall. Whisper them into the breeze. These are THINGS TO KNOW.
Yeesssssssssss.
Interesting
Bookmark this shit and the next time someone begins gobbling nonsense at you on a social network, instead of engaging, point them to this handy chart. Also useful: Thought Catalog’s “How To Have A Rational Conversation“ flowchart.
the thing that sucks is that people love saying sleep early is good etc etc and yeah it is. I’ve seen some benefits before. but I think it sucks to ignore that late night is the only time with any freedom. I think it sucks to not acknowledge the dread in waking up and it’s a work day again
“fast travel to work” is a great way of putting it. because a lot of people say “but the less time you have at night, the more time you have during the morning!” but your morning is like, getting emotionally ready to get off of bed, taking your meds, taking a shower, making and eating breakfast, going to work, etc. and waking up early will just make you do that stuff early. it won’t give you more time to rest, it won’t give you more time to talk to anyone, it won’t inherently give you anything at all even. sometimes saving up 30-60 minutes before work is just kind of a nothing amount of time. it’s like saying extended lunch break is free time. it’s not. just because you’re not actively working doesn’t mean you’re not giving your time to your employer
